In the early phases of a romance, how much are you influenced by your friends’ and family’s opinions your potential partner?
I think for all the relationships I have been in, I have kept my friends and family away. I don’t think I’ve hidden my partner or have been ashamed of them. With one of them, I knew that they did not like her, so I just kept the two groups away. With another, I was wary of them not liking the new person that I was with (although I didn’t have any reason for that) and got drunk at the first meeting. Luckily they liked her and had a good time with her while I was passed out. The last one wanted the relationship to be quiet. Although I did tell my friends about her and I think that they would have got along, the relationship never made it to that point.
With my parents I always wait I few months to tell my parents so that it’s too late to interfere.
Trying to crawl out the pit that I’m in. It’s good that I’ve stop digging for the most part. But even with friends, getting out will be difficult at best. Should I be satisfied that I stop digging and learn to live in this hole that I’ve dug for myself?
The answers that I were afraid of are going to go with him to the grave. Going to have to accept it and move on, whatever that entails.
Its been awhile since I’ve done one of these, it took me awhile because of my online antisocial attitude, and tech with then new update I probably have more stuff to do.
When you are the only Black person in a space. Just how dangerous of a black personal are you. Is my Lorax/Treehugger shirt too threatening? Is there a table two spaces away or do we have to sit next to him. Maybe we can eat in the hot car outside. It won’t be that bad, right?
Kinda sad that I this is my entry after being gone for awhile. But racism waits for no black man.